I’m writing the following from a place of full love of the game; actually what I like to consider a contribution of the highest importance from my part.

Sometime you write stuff for self-amuzement (or should I say “always”), sometimes to discuss an issue, get an opinion, get answers, or sometime just to give answers & share great epiphanies.

Well…the following is not so much a “great epiphany” because that brings a certain “uncertainty” and “gimmick” like connotation with it…

No this is actually the post that I want to base the rest of my future upon…or should I say “the now”…;)

Just a couple of simple “game truths” / life truths in general that are actually ALL you need, and is actually all there’s really to it…

First of:

If you can learn anything from “true naturals” it’s that the continuous all-pervading pattern is that they just don’t seem to know what they’re doing.

& This doesn’t seem to hinder them at all…Probably (Definitely) this helps them…

Learn from that.

Secondly & from here on out:

Your behavior is all you control. It’s all you should look at. Look at “born naturals” (raised naturals or whatevr), all that really matters is that they just ACT. A lot. The only thing that defines them from chodes is their active behavior.

They take action; they are action.

All you have to do is act from your own intentions. If you’re ever feeling lost; look at your own behavior…over the past years…months…days…hours…or right now…whatever it takes. You know. When looking at your behaviors it all becomes clear in the dense foggy shitcloud of game theory…decide & adjust what you expect of yourself.

Thirdly:

“Am I being the man I’m meant to be?” “Is this how I’m supposed to be acting?”

When the answer becomes “Yes” more often; you stop asking yourself and you start knowing…You start knowing and feeling that you are the man you’re meant to be at all times.

Powerful.

You move like you’re supposed to be moving.

You talk like you’re supposed to be talking.

You’ve got total 100000% belief & trust in yourself because you know that you’re being man you’re meant to be.

You move through the world with total belief & everything is done with quality and on purpose.

Can anyone say congruence?

Total self-reliance?

Total belief & intent?

Fourth thang on da menu:

The most important & probably only real true motivation & reason to open a woman is because you want to close a woman.

Sure I open women without the intent to close them; when I’m shooting the shit in the club in the beginning…but this is a concious choice.

This wanting to close her should not be a thought, and the only feeling you should base this on is horniness. Sexual attraction. Instead of now “figuring out” how to always be in this “sexual state.” Just let nature do it’s thing…

Considering you’re doing the 3 things mentioned above; sexuallity should come automatically:

Imagine you’re out in the club, and you’re just not “feeling it”…Are you being the man you’re meant to be right now? What would he feel like? What would he do?

He would have fun & do whatever…totally not focussed on his “sexual state” because he doesn’t even know what he’s doing. He’s just being the man he’s meant to be and he has a high sex drive because one of his main life rules is that he doesn’t drain his natural sexual hormones by wacking off 3 times a day…No he realizes that his sexual desire is his strength.

All he does is see the world as a smorgasboard (or however the fuck u spell that) of sex…of women…that he chooses from. That he actually does.

Those are the essentials, and in this game the essentials is all you need.

The Key is to do what you want, when you want, totally at your own rhythm.

Although this could be seen controversial, with a major if  not a TOTAL disregard to what other expect/want of you.

It’s about knowing what you want & going for it with full trust in yourself.

You can do “impossible” things when in your masculine polarity & just fucking going for it with full throttle.

Girls will bring up resistance no matter what; whether it’s shittests or social conditioning: this shit is getting messy.

I just made out with a hot collegue of mine that I’ve known for months. Think about all of the logical resistance that our “relation” brought with it…Fuck it just blast through it with your non-wavering intent. I was able to do that because I was just being in my own rhythm; which happened to be different than everyone else in the place, moving at my own speed; doing exactly what I want.

She was attracted to me, don’t get me wrong…because I’m a man. I made HER forget about her doubts & blasted both of us to a place we both wanted to be at.

They are attracted & trust my masculinity…I take over & go for it with END in mind. Eat her pussy & fuck her upstairs…

I go & lead that. She trusts & wants me to put ALL responsibility off of her & onto me. It is.

Then she can let go & get pooned by the rod of “God.”

*The higher the social contioning/resistance; the messier it’s going & needs to be. The harder you need to just know what you want & keep at it.

To have game that “builds from state” is TOTALLY the wrong way to go about all of this.

It’s about knowing what you want, going for what you want @ total disregard of anyone’s social expectations. The only root is your OWN masculine polarity & rhythm.

This brings a certain solidity, self-trust & “state” with it that is unprecedented.

A total disregard for her thoughts & ego-desires, and a TOTAL TRUST in your own motives & KNOWING why YOU are there & deep down knowing why SHE is there too. The exact same reason. It’s just your responsibility to make it happen. Lead.

A total trust in your own reality & knowing what you want.

I am writing this down purely for the sake of writing this down…

I want to talk about DESERVING. The feeling of deserving, actually deserving, and knowing you are deserving.

This might not have a clear structure, but it will be full, dense, and all-pervading…or at least it should be

…That is coincidentally the case, because Deserving or your sense of entitlement is ALSO all-pervading, dense, and full.

There’s something about the word “entitlement” that I don’t really like because to me it also has a somewhat “spoiled little kid” connotation…Something in the little spoiled kid’s reality won’t happen and then the little fucker will stomp it’s feet and yell “But I am entitled!” but then take no right action.

DESERVING IS PURELY ABOUT RIGHT ACTION.

You deserve everything you desire, but if you don’t take action on your desires then “deserving” something is absolutely useless, and nothing more than dirty, concentrated ego in it’s shittiest form: a mental cluster without any inspiration or desire to take right action.

So again:

You deserve everything you desire, and you should take action on everything you desire.

This brings us to the next cornerstone: DESIRE.

What’s desire?

Well, I can’t really explain that, but just read the following:

It’s about having PURE DESIRE. You can not truely desire a woman from an ego. You can’t. Sorry. But you just won’t FEEL that amazing pure desire for that beautiful female energy unless you are in your masculine energy…and that’s pure presence. Identification with conciousness.

Being identified with that inner champion…that dis-identification of your mind. That identification with the feeling of being in your own body; that nothingness.

You just walk around the world and when you are in that state of no-mind, rooted in your body, and then if you cross paths with girl; your body will respond with that pure feeling of desire; the strength only according to how feminine she is according to your masculinity…That polarity; that FEELING OF ATTRACTION IN THE MOMENT is pure desire. Not tainted by judgements of the ego. Not judging her, not judging yourself (DESERVING).

It’s about DESERVING TO DESIRE HER. and it goes both ways: Your pure desire for her makes you totally 100000% deserving. Actually more accurately: YOU’VE ALWAYS DESERVED HER NO MATTER HOW SHIT YOU’VE BEEN FEELING; but now you FEEL YOUR DESERVING…and that feels fucking good. So just follow that pure desire with total conviction & act on it.

When you truly do DESERVE however, you obviously won’t feel the need to remind yourself “I deserve…” because that would mean you signpost is hindering you more than helping you.

HOWEVER, realize that ALL the ego really does is: *drumroll*

TELL YOU ALL/ANY REASON WHY YOU DON’T DESERVE. It doesn’t have to be in words, it doesn’t have to be a logical reason (although it CAN be)…all that matters is that your ego just tells you “I don’t deserve her…I don’t deserve to approach,” and my personal favorite: You will ASK your ego if you deserve to take action. You see, you desire, and just before you’re about to approach it’s “do I deserve to?”

Observe & see that’s how it works.

You will notice that when you’re already in the correct state of being “present;” of being IDENTIFIED WITH THAT INNER CHAMPION, and it’s like the beginning of the night, you will feel attraction for a hot girl and then you quickly ASK yourself “should I approach?” which is in reality just you asking yourself (your ego) “Do I deserve to approach?”

Of course the answer is always YES; because you felt true & pure desire. You deserve her fully.

I find it handy, especially in the beginning of the night, to remind myself to know & feel that I deserve everything.

The difference between you lording the club & you totally feeling like shit and feeling your night just failed is: You asking yourself if you’re deserving, and even worse: ACTING ON THAT BY NOT ACTING.

So although the “signpost” might get in the way in the end; just start the night off realizing you are deserving. Even before you feel it. Even before you’re in state, and before your brain will even allow you to fully enjoy & desire girls, just know that you DESERVE IT ALL.

When a girl rejects you; you won’t feel shit. You deserve her. It’s never a matter of not deserving her. The only reason she blew you out is because you didn’t truly desire her. She felt that.

The biggest reason a blow-out hurts is because by being blown out your ego tells you “You don’t deserve it anyways” and that’s fucked up, and that’s what causes most guys to crawl back into their wombs of shit, and never approach anymore, and become full chode.

“Deserving” is THE BASE BELIEF.

You don’t need any logical reason to deserve. You are deserving by default. All your ego does is talk you out of your sense of entitlement; out of your sense of deserving everything you desire. As a matter of fact, your ego will prevent you from truly desiring in the first place.

Your ego will only give you fake desire; just the mental projection of her. Not her.

They key is to ENJOY THE GIRL IN FRONT OF YOU FULLY. In the moment. Automatically. Feeling it. Acting on it.

If you start the night out, and you’re out of state, and you’re in your head:

You deserve everything. Now go and approach & enjoy the girls.

Sometimes you can’t even enjoy the girls. Approach anyways. Get blown out 8767 times. You deserve them anyways, so you don’t look for that validation. You just approach. The ultimate hotties. You deserve them.

You’re totally out of state, taking value, being in your head, being totally in your ego: FUck it: you still deserve them!!

Even if you’re totally in your ego, you still fucking deserve them.

DESERVING is the base belief.

Validation seeking comes from not fully feeling deserving, and we all know validation seeking is pretty much the biggest game-killer out there…Getting blown out is 95 % of the time the result of looking for validation & therefore not fully enjoying / purely desiring her, but just to validate your ego.

Deserve.

Your sense of deserving is the base belief of your game. The strongest reality; the strongest sense of deserving wins. It will only FEEL like a win, and truly BE a win to you however, when you are present. Presence is almost the after-effect of just being a man…being that masculine polarity…and only in that state can you fully enjoy woman; the feminine. So start & end with that: enjoying women. The rest follows.

For your OWN sake, fun, and enjoyment: Be present & actually ENJOY the girls. You’ve always deserved; except now you feel the trust in yourself.  You DESIRE. You deserve everything you desire. You trust yourself to desire. Act on your desires…be free guys.

The #1 Killer

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For some reason, validation issues have always been my “Achillee’s-heel” when it comes to all this socializing stuff. It’s been there for a long time, and it’s showing it’s ugly head in different forms all of the time. Perhaps it’s just the biggest scar left from the ol’ puberty years…

I get on these validation binges where I’m “super awesome” and I’m getting all this external validation from the people around me (I’m like the donut rolling down the street in Ethiopia)…like I had last week when I was at a social-event with my study…

In the end I get this image in my head where everyone should basically bow at my feet, I should be the focus of attention at ALL times; for ever…Girls should throw their bodies at me because I’m so awesome, present, and have so much value, etc, etc…Like this is ACTUALLY the ego I’m getting after/during getting all this massive validation…Ofcourse after a while the ego takes over, and it becomes a vicious circle where in the end the external reality can no longer keep up with the rediculous image in your head, and you actually lose all of your state because you’re no longer getting the level of validation you’re now used to…Then you become a really needy validation seeker, where you seek validation in an obvious manner…

You become a “validation seeking Gollum”

So what I’m saying here is that you think you might want the validation, you actually don’t want it, because it leads you into this really weird space where you went from being this super awesome value-giving guy, to a value-taker. Quite a deceiving thing to do really…

On the other end of the spectrum we have when you’re not getting the validation you think you deserve, because you’re simply looking for it. You don’t want the girl, you just want the reaction…

You have this image in your head based on your past success; and you want the external reality to match is, and it’s a never-ending thing… You don’t expect girls to like you; but you need to prove to yourself you still got it…or you expect every girl to like you, and when they don’t you just get pissed off & go on a validation-seeking binge.

This is basically a “ego-gap” between what your MIND thinks you deserve, and what you ACTUALLY deserve (which is EVERYTHING, but only everything you take ACTION on)…and this kind of validation seeking is often the case where you’ve been in the game for a while; most times after you had some great success recently, and you’re looking to replicate it.

In whichever way it comes; validation seeking is a like an endless downward spiral where you’re just GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY continuously. Even if you “get what you want” you still lose because you’re giving your power & self-worth away to other people’s reaction to you.

Ofcourse none of this is done conciously; but subconsiously. Noone conciously goes around “I’m gonna give my power away now.”

The “I’m great with girls”-ego I think is most treacherous because it PREVENTS dudes that are sometimes actually really good with chicks to taking any further action because they cling to the self-image, and it’s no longer about the girl right in front of them…Sometimes it’s about the girl right in front of them SO THAT it can reach a certain outcome….This is that re-occuring ego that still fucks with me to this day…

I’ve always wondered how come it’s so weird that you almost NEVER have like 2 or 3 really insanely good nights in a row. Up until now, I’ve never been out 3 nights in a row, and had equally great nights all 3 nights…The first night is usually a warmup night, the second night is usually the night where I book mad success, and the third night is usually the WORST because I’m expecting all of these results because I’m “good now.”

So what’s the solution?

The biggest issue here is just the fact you’re giving your power away. You’re looking for your self-worth in other people’s reactions…That’s fucking disgusting behavior. You become “present” so that you “give value” all to in the end get a result/get validation…

Sounds gay, but it’s totally common…and gay.

It’s about NOT HOLDING BACK, ever. It’s about just never holding back on your actions. Approach because you want to, FUCK the outcome. It doesn’t matter how hot or ugly she is because the composition of the fatty & muscular tissues on her body will NOT make you any happier than you are right now.

Thinking a girl with a super hot body will make you happier is the same dillusion that getting a new mercedes will make you a happier person…

Not holding yourself back because of what other people around might think of you; fuck that shit. First of all: people really don’t care…Second of all: even if they cared, do you REALLY think it’s a good enough reason to not do what you want & be who you’re meant to be??

Connect to their REAL DEEP SELF. Blast through the girls’ looks. Slingshot through that…connect to their personalities. Be real.

Identify with your inner champion (dis-identify with your mind; through meditation/through action.)

Escalate mercilessly.

Action based on outcome = not spiritual = inner bitch = giving your power away = imprisonment disguised as freedom.

Action = Spiritual = inner champion = freedom = how you want to live your life. Action on your inner champ (when the mind is quiet or when identified with inner champ instead of inner bitch/mind) is basically “applied spirituality.”

Part 1:  The 2 different kinds of value.

Instead of “being present” you might as well call it “being normal,” or “being cool.” If you’re not; you’re simply not cool, you’re not in your normal default state, and you most certainly are not sexy.

I see a lot of newbs blindly repeating with utter conviction “Presence isn’t everything,” simply because they read it somewhere else…however they simply don’t really know what they’re really saying…It’s like saying “being cool & being normal isn’t everything”…No it’s not EVERYTHING, but if you’re not normal/cool, then you’re pretty much a weirdo and a loser.

All people should read into “presence isn’t everything” is that ACTION is above all. Given that action is number 1: presence is like number 1b. It’s fucking essential to natural game…simply because if you’re not coming from that “higher self;” that “inner champion,” you’re not naturally attractive.

The main reason people get “sick” of game, of being present, and all that stuff is because they’re expecting certain results. They expect that if they’re present the results will fall into their laps…I am one of those people at times that ego gets the best of me…

..I get sick of being present n shit when I feel really good & in the zone, and then go out…and then I’m actually surprised I don’t get any girls…I’m actually pissed off!

..and then I realize a few hours later I actually approached like 2 chicks the entire night; LOOKING FOR THAT VALIDATION of how presence should mean I’m the shit…

See?

Validation seeking & a lack of action = the 2 main ingredients to a shit night…and to shit game…and to then going on the forums again fully convinced that “presence isn’t everything.”

There’s 2 kinds of value: your in-the-moment-value which is all-prevailing, & your long-term-value…Most of society is only concerned with the latter, which is why so many dudes are getting laid below their means…but it’s still very important…That’s the whole “Nathan-type mindset” vs. the “being present” deal in a nutt-shell…after the blueprint there was mainly only focus on the in-the-moment value & sometimes at cost of the long-term-value. You want & need both if you want to be complete. Long-term-value = stuff like working out, being fit, finances, education, work, purpose stuff, other hobbies & skills.

Part 2: Being Authentic.

The “rules,” the knowledge of terminology & concepts including “being real” can lead to impression instead of expression, and are part of a bigger ego that needs validation…don’t impress. Ditching that pickup ego comes down to that very thing.

Don’t just read over that and continue, but let it sink in a bit…especially the part about “..can lead to impression..”

You can be the coolest dude, and really BE the coolest dude; in the fucking zone…and the thing that can make you slip outa that zone is the need for validation…especially after you just GOT the validation because you ARE a cool dude…

Remember my glorious rule: If you’re having a bad night, it’s because you were 1 way or the other needing validation, or afraid to get de-validated. Ego. Validation seeking = the number 1 killer in pickup-land.

Being present/feeling your own value in that moment + not needing the validation of that value by trying to impress = being real.

There’s something extremely charming about having massive balls; being that dominant & present type dude but then at the same time having shed all the personality shields & coming from this almost naivity. Having that insane value but “not even realizing it” and coming from this super authentic & connecting place. That’s being real.

Instead of being a “rock” which is what most guys are doing; being “stiff” and “tough” and “manly” they actually resemble pissed off little kids more than anything else…pissed off little kids that aren’t allowed to go to Billy’s house after dinner because they didn’t eat their veg…

Don’t be the rock. Be water. Be REAL.

Being present: being IDENTIFIED WITH YOUR INNER MAN rather than your “inner-little-girl-that IS your mind.”

Feeling really good. Then not looking for any validation, shedding ALL shields. That’s being real. Being the fucking BOMB DOT COM and “not even realizing it.”

It’s that “super hot girl that doesn’t even know she’s hot” effect: it’s the girl that all the guys fall in love with. Be that girl. ;D

There’s this place deep within you that is deeper than anything else.

What does it mean to you when I say the words “man the fuck up.” ?

As Alexander~ from RSD says: “It’s actually more accurately saying ‘being manned the fuck DOWN‘ since it’s a state where there’s NOTHING added.” It’s the state of being that is left when there is absolutely NOTHING left.

It’s not a state that can only be “accessed by meditation…” It’s the state that precedes everything. It’s not euphoric “feelgood” because it’s a void of emotions & feelings…yet it’s the place that you become euphoric FROM when you just “let go…” Although it’s not euphoric feelgood; this serene, quiet, emptiness might just feel really good to you if you’ve been up & the rollercoasters of your mind….

It’s a place of knowing. It’s a place of infinite love…tough love…but love.

If you’re into meditation/being present: It’s the place where you “let go” FROM. It’s this void of nothingness; this masculine emptiness that you let go FROM…

It IS a state of no mind. You’re not trying to let go of your mind…nor are you furiously trying to become present so your mind will finally shut up. No. There is simply no space for the mind.

Masculine emptiness…

…It’s focussed. It’s non-evading. It’s a lazer. It’s a rock.

No longer searching.

I’m in a place of knowing.

I know, and I know that I know…This circle of knowing only strengthens itsself.

Every bit of mental chatter is ADDITION to this state of nothingness. No mental chatter. There is no space for it here. You don’t even have to try. Just do it.

Man down.

Nothingness.

“Being present” is only natural & no longer hard…all it requires is a bit of awareness to the external world while I’m still rooted in this inner place of knowing…The mind has no grip. There is no space for the mind.

Elite Congruence starts & ends here.

It’s the next revolution in my evolution.

This place of being is so focussed, that in order to feel “state” you have to let go…Just know that this is the BASE of your BEING. Wake up every day, and make sure you’re living from this place of knowing no mattter what; presence & letting go starts with this…

It’s what makes you a trustworthy man.

“It’s a place of knowing that will grow more & more familiar to you.” - Android RSDN